WHEN A LOVED ONE PASSES AWAY

When a Loved One Passes Away

We live alongside someone for decades; we love them, and they are a vital part of our existence. Then, from one moment to the next, they are gone. Do not expect it to be easy, and do not let others force you to treat this loss as if you were simply turning the page of a book.

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Others cannot — and often do not want to — feel our pain. Even within the same family, everyone experiences loss in a deeply personal way. In the past, people sought to comfort one another, but today, most people don’t want to be around anyone who is suffering.

To avoid rejection or to keep from "bothering" others, many people suffocate their grief and hide the pain of losing a loved one. Do not do this!

You have lost a life with which you shared complicity, dreams, and the security of companionship. Together, you built a story and lived experiences you never could have imagined. You faced joyful and difficult days side by side; you would embrace, and everything felt alright. Now, you are alone. That specific embrace is gone, and other hugs do not have the power to make everything okay again.

Respect Your Own Time

You need to live your experience of loss. You deserve to be respected and treated with dignity. No one can breathe for you, and no one should dismiss your pain. Do not stop breathing just to please others or to avoid being an "inconvenience."

When we lose someone, we face an avalanche of feelings: guilt, remorse, resentment, anger, loneliness, despair, anguish, and a deep, bitter sadness. Even if everyone tells you that death is normal, that it happens to everyone, and that you must "move on," be very careful with this advice. Often, what they are really saying is: “Forget about it and leave us in peace.”

Think fondly of everyone you know and try to find someone who truly wants to listen to your heart without judgment, without trying to rush your healing. Tell them your memories, share your pain, the happy moments, and the plans that were left behind.

Seeking Support

There is nothing wrong with seeking a qualified psychologist or therapist who can listen to you patiently and with empathy. However, look for good references; ensure the professional behaves as a compassionate human being and isn't just interested in financial gain. Seeking help isn't a sign of being "unbalanced"—it is the step of someone looking to cross a storm with support.

The Journal of Memories and Caring for Your Home

A practical suggestion: buy a journal. Write down all the good things you lived together, but also write down your fears, insecurities, and even the funny moments. Decorate this journal with illustrations, photographs, and mementos.

If you feel the need, change the decor of your home. Change the colors, move the furniture around. But regardless of any changes, open all the windows. Let the sunlight in and let the air circulate. Physical darkness rarely brings good things to the spirit.

Changing your home, moving to a new address, or even to a different city does not mean you are abandoning the deceased or destroying the history you built together. It means you need to survive and start anew, honoring the memory of your loved one by continuing to sow seeds of goodness for yourself and for them.

New Beginnings and Faith

Start a garden or a vegetable patch, whether in the ground or in pots. Dedicate yourself to it with focus. If you can, travel, take a course, or volunteer. Record these new experiences in your journal of memories.

Seek God in prayer as many times as you need. Hand over your pain to the Father. Many people say they wish they could speak to the one they lost just one more time. So, speak! Talk for hours if you have to. Then, ask God to let your message reach your loved one.

We would like to share something very important that we have learned in our spiritual experience: every life that has passed is being very well cared for by "Papai" (Father).

Death is a birth, not an end. A seed can only reach its fullness after it slumbers in the soil, only to return even more alive, amidst lights and beautiful colors.

Bhole Baba comfort your heart!

Learn more about Saiva Siddhanta Philosophy by clicking here:

https://www.sivayoga.com.br/2026/01/saiva-siddhanta-philosophy-free-english.html

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